On a much more pleasant note

[thewayne]

Apostate wanted to see our wedding vows, well, here ya go. Russ said no problem, she doesn't mind if I post the whole service text. The words are part me, part Russet, and part from the minister. I like them.


I promise to love, honor and cherish you. In times of prosperity, I will celebrate with you. In times of adversity, I will support you. I will be with you in sorrow, for sorrow shared is diminished. I will be with you in joy, for joy is increased. I will negotiate our differences with respect and a loving heart.

I take you to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know, with respect for your integrity and faith in your abiding love for me, through all our years, and in all that life may bring us.


Russet is a very independent woman and more than a bit of a feminist. There are a lot of trappings of slavery/treating women as chattel in a lot of the common vows, we worked pretty hard to excise those elements.

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Thanks

[thewayne.livejournal.com]

I relayed your comments to Russ and she appreciated them.

I heard an interesting story today. At the ceremony, Audrey, my best man, did a reading from Gibran's The Prophet. Russ didn't want to have Sally, her maid of honor, do a reading as she was arriving the previous night and wasn't at the rehearsal. So the original plan was for Hope, one of Russet's college roommates, do a reading. But Hope has a six month old daughter, and there was no telling if Joy would cooperate (fortunately she did). So as a backup, Russ gave her mom a copy of the reading so that she could do it if need be. As it turns out, Russ lost the additional copies of the reading that I had made, so she gave her mom a full copy of the service. Well, both her parents apparently followed the entire ceremony through the script!

I find that kind of amusing. Afterwards, her father complimented us on having a 'fine, spiritual ceremony.' That was nice, and quite touching.

Re: Thanks

[apostate-96.livejournal.com]

That is sweet! Thanks for sharing that, too, my friend.